My wife asked me yesterday morning if we could have a date night soon, which I responded "Sure, let's do it Thursday at the house!" and then she explained that she wanted it to be us going out to dinner, getting dressed up, etc. Our funds are limited this month (trying to get caught up with mortgage and utilities), I explained we'd have to look at the budget we agreed on earlier this month and see where the money was going to come from.
She asked me if I was in the mood to go out to eat, I explained I wasn't really and that I'm more interested in getting us out of debt. I also reminded her of the week trip we had just done last month. It hurts me to not be able to do the things we/she want, but we got ourselves into this mess through lack of self-control and bad choices.
That evening we had another related event happen, where she picked up a "Free" glossy magazine called "goingplaces" and it was filled with events over the summer (festivals, etc), that cost money. It was like a giant walking billboard. It brought her mood down like a rock knowing that we don't have the money to go to those things. The second time around I was able to handle it a better, different way..."Before you had picked up that magazine, your mood was great. Once you realized it had stuff you couldn't have, it brought your mood down. We don't have to spend money to have fun, there will always be items no matter what that are out of our reach." That last part I got from my reading of "The Richest Man In Babylon".